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I have had a GoFundMe for over a year and just recently added a new page to this blog so folks can donate directly to me. I love this! Check it out! 🙂

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when was the last time You Questioned Your Beliefs?

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When was the last time you questioned your beliefs?

I know with the state of our government these days, a lot of folks are questioning what they believe politically and that’s all part of what makes us part of society. My question digs a little deeper than that.

We grow up being taught a certain way to believe. I was fortunate that my grandfather also believed in spiritual beings deserving to choose for themselves. I was taken to church every Sunday as a child and I was baptized and christened as a baby there. When I reached a certain age I was Confirmed as a church member and attended Catechism. But when I turned fifteen years old my grandfather gave me a choice.   Continue reading

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reading the Blurb, but not the entire post

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When you only read the blurb, the lead-in that describes a written article, but you fail to click the link and read the entire post, are you getting the Big Picture, or just the teaser that has nothing to do with the final words?

Some folks read the blurb and they think they know what the gist of the entire post is and they respond, but only to the blurb. This is a bit frustrating to those of us that spend hours composing a thoughtful article that the blurb barely scratches the surface of.

Why bother writing beyond the blurb if that’s all folks are reading?

“I was told I have an inoperable tumor and only have one week left to live. I was going to another doctor to get a second opinion.” [ 684 more words ]   Continue reading

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When it doesn’t make you feel better…try changing your mindset

 

Someone made a nasty comment on my blog after I poured my heart out into a post. It was snarky and mean; meant to hurt the person reading it. So I did the most obvious thing. I deleted it with the intention of never sharing it or responding to it.

But I went back to the deleted comment again and got the person’s blog address so I could see what they were writing about. What could be so bad in their life that they had to come over here and troll me? The blog didn’t exist. I felt disappointed and a little exposed. So this was truly just some troll?

So I went back to the deleted comment again and got their email address and thoughtfully composed an email telling them it must be easy to hide behind a dead blog when they felt the need to be passive aggressive. Why would they think that what they did was okay?

The person responded telling me if I had nothing nice to say to please leave them alone.

Really?   Continue reading

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How to be So Busy you don’t care

One of the sage pieces of advice given to folks that take things personally is to try to be so busy that you don’t have time to think about it, or to care. I think this is excellent advice.

How exactly are you supposed to get that busy?

  • If you are still in the employed field you can concentrate more on your work.
  • Find out if there are ways you can pursue advancement in your chosen profession.
  • Take on projects for extra credit.
  • Join clubs.
  • Volunteer.
  • Do charity work and help others.
  • Work on your home by redecorating.
  • Organize your closets and drawers.
  • Plant a garden.
  • Visit your family.
  • Find a hobby like making jewelry or felting.
  • Put on your headphones and listen to a podcast.
  • Bake!
  • Learn a new recipe.
  • Listen to music.
  • Ride your bike!
  • Workout! Use the gym as therapy!
  • Take better care of yourself.
  • Buy a coloring book.
  • Make art!
  • Do yoga.
  • Meditate.

The list is actually endless. There are so many other constructive activities you can use to occupy that part of your brain, instead of worrying about the person that might not like you. I can guarantee they aren’t giving you a second thought because they are busy too.

What would the world be like if no one ever took anything personally?

I dunno.   Continue reading

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How to change the subject with love

I was loudly complaining to a friend about some injustice I had just suffered because someone was being mean to me. “She has the nerve to say all this stuff behind my back, but she’s too much of a coward to say it to my face.” My friend was listening and hooting right along with me and then she said,“She’s so jealous of your good life that she has to keep talking smack about you!”

I stopped.

Wow.   Continue reading

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What do you believe?

What do you believe?

This isn’t a question about spirituality. This is a question about your core beliefs about yourself and how you manage and construct your life as you age.

What do you believe in order to add new friends to your life?

As of late I have discovered I have not always been the greatest person when it comes to picking out friends. I am starting to get better at this, but my past continues to poke me in the eye in the meantime. Since I was old enough to hold hands on the playground, I have gathered as many friends to me as possible. At any time over the last five decades there has been a large group of people I called “friend” and all of them received my love and attention 100% of the time. After 50 years that’s a lot of time spent loving people. Unfortunately for me, it was a lot of time spent loving the wrong people.    Continue reading

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