by Madeline Laughs
It’s early afternoon when the phone rings. You hurry to answer before the answering machine picks up.
A woman’s voice on the other end asks “May I speak to John?”
“John’s not home from work yet. May I take a message?” Grabbing for a pen and a scrap of paper you prepare to jot down a number or a message from the woman calling.
But she answers “Nah, I’ll just try to call him again later.” and she hangs up before you can respond.
Some women’s antennae will immediately spring to red alert. Mine just made me chuckle to myself. Over dinner that night I teased John that his girlfriend had called again. He scoffed and we both laughed.
We knew who she was and we knew her game.
That’s right ladies, some women don’t care if he’s married.
Some women are ballsy enough to call your home and ask for him. This breed of woman is generally pretty stupid and clueless too, but that’s another blog. They will make those calls and aggressively pursue that target. With the stupid and the clueless the ball, so to speak, is always in the man’s court.
This is a woman with absolutely no self respect and no morals. She will always get exactly what she deserves and it’s always sloppy seconds.Be wary of the single, desperate woman that tries to ingratiate herself into your married life too. She’ll want to be your newbestfriend, but her eye will be plastered to what she’s really after…your husband. She’ll come up with all kinds of outlandish adventures that include him, and maybe her child, but those dates will not include you. When that starts to happen, you need to sweep her and her desperation out the door. Don’t even bother trying to fix her up with your single friends. Why would you do that to a friend?
Trust me, you don’t need those kinds of girlfriends.
The pathology of this kind of person is pretty well mapped out. They don’t necessarily pursue the path of least resistance, but rather the path of least suspicion. If she becomes close enough to the wife to be considered a friend, well, then she’s the last person you’d suspect of going after your husband, right?
This kind of woman doesn’t like herself.
Women that pursue married men like the idea of the marriage, but they have absolutely no idea themselves how to make a marriage work. If they did, they’d pursue someone that is emotionally available instead of someone who isn’t.
Here’s my advice to any woman out there that thinks it’s okay to pursue a married man…don’t. If a married man pursues you, know up front what he’s really after and it’s not a long term relationship.
They aren’t available to you mentally or emotionally. Physically they may like to get their dick wet with you, but that’s all primal and means nothing to most men. I’m not kidding.
Their wives, their married lives, and their families, are usually compartmentalized and they are closed to the other woman. You’ll never even get your foot in that door. You’re a piece of ass. A distraction. Something to get his rocks off with.
But you’ll never be someone he takes home to meet his mama.
Seriously, have some self respect and move on. And leave the wife alone. It’s not her fault you make bad decisions. Take a look in the mirror. See that woman in there? That’s the person you should try being friends with.
If you have a husband or wife that cheats, dump them or seek counselling. Some marriages are worth saving, and some aren’t. I won’t sit here and pretend I know which is which because only you know what you’ll put up with for the sake of your marriage. Take a look in the mirror. See that person in there? That’s the person that knows you are worth it and wants what is best for you.
This is Madeline Laughs and I’m here to let you know that commitments and vows still mean something in a world gone haywire with instant gratifications.
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