I was just Trying to be Nice

I was just trying to be nice.

How many times do people say that to you when you’re trying to let them know that their actions hurt your feelings?

I was just trying to be nice.

Why would you be nice to someone that would like to tear my skin off and then perch me on an anthill? 

I was just trying to be nice.

Do you understand that being nice to someone at my expense is unacceptable?

I was just trying to be nice.

Yeah, but did you have to humiliate me in the process?

I was just trying to be nice.

But that was painful. You get that part, right?

When someone tells you they were “just trying to be nice” it is the most insincere sentiment they can throw your way. A translation would be “Look, your feelings are of no concern to me at all. Go away. Stop talking to me about this. How can you fault me for trying to be the center of attention 24/7? It’s all about me and I don’t care what you think. I was just trying to be nice.”

When those words enter the atmosphere my thumb and forefinger want to rise up and zoom through the air towards the person’s cheek and grab hold of the fleshiest part and then twist and pull as hard as I can until I actually see the skin turn purple. And as the person stands there screaming in horror, holding their hand to the offended spot asking me “WHY DID YOU DO THAT?” I can very calmly reply…

“You should be happy. What I actually felt like doing was gouging out both of your eyes and making you eat them, but I settled for the simplicity of the bruised cheek. Know why?…

I was just trying to be nice, that’s all :)”

You can find this and many other entries about living with and recovering from narcissistic abuse in my book, Life After the Narcissist written by Katy Shultz. Available on Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble.com and all fine retailers.

About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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2 Responses to I was just Trying to be Nice

  1. regynalonglank says:

    I will do my best ranks right up there for me along with I was just trying to be nice and I was only joking. I will do my best basically means I will keep doing exactly what I have been doing so far, so I hope that works for you because I’m not changing anything for you. Maybe we can start a dictionary of cheap excuses, you know, oh I’m sorry I did that thing to you again after you told me you hate it. I just couldn’t control myself. Oh rilly. Cuz I think yer doin it on purpose to exact revenge, truly the lowest form of interaction on the planet. Have a nice day. In other words go away and leave me alone you unevolved turd.


  2. madelinelaughs says:

    Unevolved Turd! I LOVE that!!!!!!


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