Sister Wives, gently revisited

by Madeline Laughs
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The Learning Channel’s Sister Wives program premiered their 11th show last night and I finally watched it this morning. In it they address Bloggers. They even asked their older children not to read what the Bloggers were writing. In one segment Janelle is in tears and she addresses Bloggers again. She says while everyone is entitled to their opinion, they could at least say this stuff to her face.

I know this is one of the Blogs they’ve referred to. I watched the stats come through when I posted the first blog and it got hit numerous times by the state of Utah. While it is never my intention to hurt anyone’s feelings, I did give you exactly what you asked for. I gave you a review of the content I watched.  

This new episode was all about the children finally attending public schools. They were very concerned with how the children would be treated. It was also about their live television appearance on the Today Show announcing to the world that they practiced polygamy.

How did I feel after watching this episode?

I tuned in this morning with this feeling of conviction. Still experiencing my initial gut reaction to the first season, I didn’t like what they were doing. I had also just fielded an inflammatory comment on my first blog and responded to it. So during the first five minutes I was not there with them, but definitely there against them.

Then I watched the show.

I sat there as the credits rolled and actually felt sorry for them. I kind of wanted to cry. Not sobbing cry, but shedding a tear cry. They really are putting themselves out there and it’s not just to make a buck on television. They are risking everything, literally everything.

The end of the show they all went around to answer the question if they had to do it all over again, would they? All of them except Christine, said they would. “I don’t want my children and grandchildren to be oppressed.” They are tired of hiding. They want to pave the way for this kind of lifestyle.

So why does this still aggravate me?

Some of the things that bother me were addressed in this episode. I wish they had done that during season one. I might have been less inclined to slaughter them. Robyn, wife number 4, said she wanted people to know that not all of them had child brides, tax evasions and abusive relationships. I’m sure they thought they were conveying this through actions during the first season, but they didn’t. I wanted to know how they felt about those kinds of polygamists homes. Are they also paving the way for those folks?

We have yet to see them interact with people outside of their home lives. What are their friends like? Do they go bowling with other polygamist households? Is there a church that they attend? Is any of this my business? Well, it is on television and they are asking for viewership.

I don’t sit here in judgment, but I am curious and I do have an opinion. By putting this out there and asking for approval and acceptance they have opened themselves up for all kinds of ridicule and nonsense, along with genuine feedback. I think it’s much harder than they realized when they signed up for the show. I’m worried that some of them aren’t going to come out of this without getting deeply hurt. The public eye can be very gruesome and harsh.

When Kody Brown was asked why he became a polygamist he stuttered, then finally said it was faith based. According to church leaders, no such doctrine or church record exists.

“In an “Official Statement” from the First Presidency of the LDS Church, signed by Heber J. Grant, A.W. Ivins and J. Reuben Clark, Jr., it states: “It is alleged that on September 26-27, 1886, President John Taylor received a revelation from the Lord, the purported text is given in publications circulated apparently by or at the instance of this organization (Fundamentalists). As to this pretended revelation it should be said that the archives of the Church contain no such a revelation; the archives contain no record of any such a revelation, nor any evidence justifying a belief that any such a revelation was ever given. From the personal knowledge of some of us, from the uniform and common recollection of the presiding quorums of the Church, from the absence in the Church archives of any evidence whatsoever justifying any belief that such a revelation was given, we are justified in affirming that no such a revelation exists.”

Even in the writing of the 1886 Revelation, which Mormon Fundamentalists base their entire belief system on, it does not specifically state that plural marriage is what he is referring to. So how can Kody Brown sit there and say that what he is doing is faith based?

I guess that is what pisses me off the most.

Anyone can stand on a soap box and declare anything they want. They can live however they please. This is America, after all. And because it is America, people can condemn or support whatever they please. We are all entitled to have an opinion and to speak freely. One piece of paper clearly states these inalienable rights; The Declaration of Independence. No one contests the validity of that.

I will give them this…they are a happy bunch. The kids do seem to be well rounded and they are definitely loved and cared for. Christine said that above all else, they are a family and that we would see things in them that we liked. And I have.

I have also seen the trailers for the upcoming episodes and they do not look happy at all. While I never wish for any of them to come within harm’s reach, I feel they are going to reap more than they bargained for as America swoops in and dissects each and every tiny piece of their lives. I wish for them the fortitude and conviction to continue to stand behind their beliefs, whether they are faith based, or not, and to weather the storm in unity.

I’ll be watching.


About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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