I started getting a lot of connections on Match.com, but one guy really got my attention. In print he seemed so perfect and I couldn’t wait to meet him!
We had exchanged a few emails and talked about getting together soon, but I like hearing the man’s voice and having a prelude telephone conversation before the first meeting takes place. I asked him to call me and gave him my number.
After a few missed calls we finally made that connection.
The conversation was moving long nicely, but I kept hearing water in the background. I finally worked up my nerve and asked him where he was. I was shocked when he told me! “Oh, I had a bad day at work so I’m soaking in the tub right now.” If I had been the one that called him I might have given him a pass on this one, but he called me. That meant there was some forethought in the decision to run a bubble bath, bring the telephone into the bathroom, get undressed and climb into the tub and then call me. “Um, yeah, well, okay I have to rush now to pick up my daughter! Gotta go! Talk to you later!” and I ended the call right away.
A day later he sends me a text message wanting to know when we can go out on a date. I texted back “I don’t see that happening, sorry.” I did not expect him to pursue it after that text, but he did.
Him: What do you mean? What did I do wrong?
Me: Maybe next time you call a girl you’ve never met, to ask her for a date, you shouldn’t be naked during the phone call.
Him: Oh man! I am so sorry! Please give me a second chance to make it up to you! I really want to make this right.
So silly me, I gave him a second chance. What can I say? I’m a hopeless romantic!
After the tub call I wasn’t interested in meeting this guy after dark for our first date, so we made a date for breakfast that week. I decided it would be better if I met him at the restaurant. I then called my best friend for some advice.
What if this guy is truly creepy? What if I don’t like him?
My best friend has been so great about my new dating status. I would like nothing better than to have her screen all of my dates and she might consider it, but she is standing back and letting me figure this out for myself. If I call her though, she’s right there for me. Her advice was to keep the date and make the connection. If I decided that he wasn’t date material I should tell him at the end of the date. I shouldn’t let him assume we would see each other again because that would mean making up excuses and dodging his calls. No one deserves that.
Really? I might have to tell someone to their face that I don’t want to see them anymore? This was going to be tough! I wasn’t sure I’d be up to the task.
You see, this is the difference between women daters and men. Most men will take you out on a date with the only expectation being that they might get to have sex with you, that night. They almost never think beyond those next few hours. A woman is always thinking in the future during the date. Is he the one? Will my kid like him? When should I give in and have sex with him? Maybe the third date? Three weeks? Six months? How long will the butterflies stay in my tummy? Should we see each other again? And sometimes, she is thinking about having sex with you, right after the date that night, too. Here’s some good ways for you to tell if that might be where her head is:
Stay tuned for my next post! I’ll be giving you the blow by blow of my first date with TeleTubby!
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