by Single not Desperate
Last week I decided to give Teletubby a second chance to woo me. He is the guy that called me from the bath tub. I can’t lie, I was nervous about meeting him. I kind of already knew it might not be a love connection.
Ladies, it’s a good idea to have first meetings during the day. Lunch, coffee, even a breakfast date can end very quickly if you decide you’re ready to move on. Drinks after work and dinner always suggest a lead-in to the evening and may not be so easy to escape from.
I met this date at a local restaurant for coffee.
He was kind of funky looking and I mean that in the nicest way. Perhaps there was too much hair product and piercings for my taste, but maybe he had a winning personality? I could tell he was very shy and uncomfortable because he had trouble making eye contact. I always thought I would be the shyest one, but he had me beat.
The shy routine did not last for very long.
Once he warmed up to me, he really warmed up. I had to stop myself from checking my watch. Ten minutes into breakfast I was ready to bolt. I kept hearing my friend’s warnings and advice in my head and wondering “Is now the time to tell him I’m not interested in a second date?” I started making a mental grocery list in my head to keep from running to the front door of the restaurant screaming.
What did he do that annoyed me so much?
He talked about himself. He talked about himself. He talked about himself. He didn’t shut up about himself. And then he talked about himself some more. It went on and on and on. But did he ever ask one single question about me? No, not one, not even if I liked my coffee. This went on for an hour!
This guy was on a date with himself. I was just there to fill up the booth across from him at the table so he didn’t look too weird. It’s true! My contribution to the conversation were things like “Really?” and “uh-huh!” and “Oh!”.
I finally had the chance to interject when he made the mistake of taking a sip of his beverage and very firmly said “You know Teletubby, this has been nice, but I just don’t think I want to see you for a second date.”
Saying that and then making my exit, wasn’t as hard as I thought it was going to be. I smiled all the way to the car. Never again will I have to suffer through a date like that just so I can feel like I’m with someone.
My advice to single men dating out there is this; don’t monopolize the conversation trying to impress the lady. Take a moment to find out who she is. If you want the lady to want you, make her feel special, or at least noticed. The date is not all about you!
Don’t be an idiot and talk yourself right out of love.
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