Manipulation is shrewd or devious management, especially for one’s own advantage.
There are some folks that are masters at the art of manipulation. I was surprised to find out how many of them I rubbed elbows with on a daily basis. It was almost frightening. Especially when I realized they had also manipulated me at one time, or another.
Recognize when you’re being manipulated. You need to act responsibly and with sincerity in the face of the ruse and above all else to avoid people that practice malicious manipulation at all costs. In general, people that manipulate do so out of some narcissistic need for attention and most of all for control. It’s selfish, self centered behavior.
The next time you find yourself in a vulnerable state resulting from something you know to be outlandish, take a moment to process before you lose your temper. Look into the eyes of the one being newly solicitous and helpful. What do you see there? Do you see a friend? Or do you see someone with something to gain from your pain? Chances are they’re the ones engineering your demise.
You can find this and many other entries about living with and recovering from narcissistic abuse in my book, Life After the Narcissist written by Katy Shultz. Available on Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble.com and all fine retailers.
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