I’m no Emily Post, but…

by Madeline Laughs

Image by Madeline Laughs


Bad manners do not make you a bad person, however they can make people less desirous of your company. I’m not the best mannered person in the world, but I do try to be considerate. So I decided to look up a few of my own pet peeves about manners and share the information I found with you.

Name Dropping

I met this woman once that dropped a famous person’s name in every sentence. She was shameless. The worst part was that she had a thick Southern accent that grated my last nerve and she called famous people she claimed to know by their first name. She could talk a blue streak! Honestly, the woman never took a breath. Unless you pressed for information, you had no idea who she was talking about. However if you remained in her company long enough to reach the end of her long winded dissertation about the number of famous people she was best friends with, she’d roll the final credits for you. 

Name dropping is a sign of insecurity at social gatherings which usually backfires, alienating more than it impresses. If you’re a name-dropper you should resist the urge to mention specific names and perhaps try to feel a bit more confident with who you are rather than who you might know. The victims having their names dropped by you may not appreciate your cavalier attitude and you soon might find yourself being dropped.

Bragging

This bad habit can be sign of insecurity or pride and may cause jealousy in others. If you’re a braggart realize the only person you need to impress is yourself.

Kissing and telling

This naughty trait displays a lack of concern for others and it’s considered tacky and petty.

I knew this guy once that would blurt out every detail of his escapades. A typical revelation would go something like this; “She hooked up with this one guy the night before she hooked up with me. I think she was trying for a world record that weekend!”

There were times I wanted to tell him that he was no prize and not worthy of participating in a sexual world record of any kind, but I didn’t. See? I was being polite.

If you like to kiss and tell try counting to 10 before blurting out what’s on your mind. Put yourself in your subject’s shoes for a change. Notice I said shoes…not pants.

Procrastinating

This habit stems from fear of failure or adverse feelings toward particular activities. Procrastinating results in late fees, missed opportunities, stress, insomnia, and daytime drowsiness. It can also become such a nuisance for other people in your life that they stop relying on you and look elsewhere for people they know they can count on.

If you procrastinate use a daily calendar and to-do list to monitor tasks.

Gossiping

This is a definite sign of insecurity or boredom with one’s own life. It might hurt feelings or the welfare of others. It’s also a great way to lose friends.

If you like to gossip try taking up a new hobby to keep your mind off other people’s business.

Whining

Oh man, oh man! Let me whine for a few minutes about people that whine. I CAN’T STAND WHINERS!! I recently worked with a whiner and he was so good at whining that he could have whined professionally.

Whining is sign of immaturity and it annoys others. Do everyone a favor and grow up!

Before you whine try to focus on the positive and think about what kind of impression you’ll make. Trust me, it’s never a good one if it includes a whine.

To close let me be the first to admit that I too have bad manners at times. No one is perfect, but it’s never too late to brush up on your good manners.

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About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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6 Responses to I’m no Emily Post, but…

  1. Regyna Longlank says:

    I completely agree. I have abysmal manners in some ways, but I do appreciate a certain formality. It’s true what your mom said, please and thank you do go a long way, and it really is the little things. Manners are the little things that say I care. It is a simple, common structure that we can rely on together, a dance we do that is ancient and honorable. My personal favorite at the moment is to really answer when service professionals greet me. I look them in the eye, answer their question, ask how they are, and actually listen to the answer. It does take a tad longer, but it makes their day, and in return they usually make mine. We have an actual human interaction where rote blah blah could have been. It’s fun, let’s all try it!

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    • I’m going to start doing this today! Starting with housekeeping when I go out to raid her cart for supplies πŸ™‚ I’m even going to tip her and tell her my room doesn’t need service. And I will ask her how she’s doing! Usually this doesn’t go very well because many of the ladies in this part of the service industry don’t speak English, so I taught myself how to ask them questions in Spanish πŸ™‚ Como estas? Muchas gracias! This morning I said thank you in Spanish to the lady doing breakfast and she responded “No es nada!” and smiled at me. That means “it’s nothing” like, it’s not a big deal….so cool!

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      • Regyna Longlank says:

        oh yes, that is another good one. Always make the effort to learn the language. At least the basics. Here in America we are led to believe this is difficult, and that we are not obligated to do so for the same strange reason we eschew the metric system I suppose, but it’s not true. Anyone can do it, and everyone should because it is fun, it helps your brain exercise and stay in shape, and it shows respect. We all know it, and we need to get over our fear of sounding silly and just make the effort. That’s all anyone asks really, it’s just good form. So thank you for pointing that out, good advice here at home and when traveling.

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  2. Jennifer says:

    I believe it is bad manners to list someone’s post as a related article without checking out the whole blog. Had you done so, you would realize that the “whine” was couched in some very dark humor as my blog is about dealing with depression. It actually has little to do with whining, because most people don’t have the opportunity to talk about their depression at all, let alone whine. Getting to know someone before you make a judgement is good manners.

    Jennifer

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    • Oops! I apologize Jennifer. You’re absolutely right! I sometimes take WordPress’s word for it and tend to link whatever they suggest. Sometimes I do go and read them all, but sometimes I get in a hurry. I know that if I see that it’s a WordPress blog I almost always link to it if it’s suggested. I figure this way whoever is reading my blog might go and read yours too πŸ™‚

      My blog was in no directed at yours. Just wanted to spread the love around and give people the choice to read other blogs in addition to mine. Thanks for coming by πŸ™‚

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  3. Michi says:

    Totally guilty of procrastination… *sigh*

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