by Madeline Laughs
Bad manners do not make you a bad person, however they can make people less desirous of your company. I’m not the best mannered person in the world, but I do try to be considerate. So I decided to look up a few of my own pet peeves about manners and share the information I found with you.
I met this woman once that dropped a famous person’s name in every sentence. She was shameless. The worst part was that she had a thick Southern accent that grated my last nerve and she called famous people she claimed to know by their first name. She could talk a blue streak! Honestly, the woman never took a breath. Unless you pressed for information, you had no idea who she was talking about. However if you remained in her company long enough to reach the end of her long winded dissertation about the number of famous people she was best friends with, she’d roll the final credits for you.
Name dropping is a sign of insecurity at social gatherings which usually backfires, alienating more than it impresses. If you’re a name-dropper you should resist the urge to mention specific names and perhaps try to feel a bit more confident with who you are rather than who you might know. The victims having their names dropped by you may not appreciate your cavalier attitude and you soon might find yourself being dropped.
This bad habit can be sign of insecurity or pride and may cause jealousy in others. If you’re a braggart realize the only person you need to impress is yourself.
Kissing and telling
This naughty trait displays a lack of concern for others and it’s considered tacky and petty.
I knew this guy once that would blurt out every detail of his escapades. A typical revelation would go something like this; “She hooked up with this one guy the night before she hooked up with me. I think she was trying for a world record that weekend!”
There were times I wanted to tell him that he was no prize and not worthy of participating in a sexual world record of any kind, but I didn’t. See? I was being polite.
If you like to kiss and tell try counting to 10 before blurting out what’s on your mind. Put yourself in your subject’s shoes for a change. Notice I said shoes…not pants.
This habit stems from fear of failure or adverse feelings toward particular activities. Procrastinating results in late fees, missed opportunities, stress, insomnia, and daytime drowsiness. It can also become such a nuisance for other people in your life that they stop relying on you and look elsewhere for people they know they can count on.
If you procrastinate use a daily calendar and to-do list to monitor tasks.
This is a definite sign of insecurity or boredom with one’s own life. It might hurt feelings or the welfare of others. It’s also a great way to lose friends.
If you like to gossip try taking up a new hobby to keep your mind off other people’s business.
Oh man, oh man! Let me whine for a few minutes about people that whine. I CAN’T STAND WHINERS!! I recently worked with a whiner and he was so good at whining that he could have whined professionally.
Whining is sign of immaturity and it annoys others. Do everyone a favor and grow up!
Before you whine try to focus on the positive and think about what kind of impression you’ll make. Trust me, it’s never a good one if it includes a whine.
To close let me be the first to admit that I too have bad manners at times. No one is perfect, but it’s never too late to brush up on your good manners.
- Russell Bishop: Are You a Winner or a Whiner? (huffingtonpost.com)
- Importance of Attitude – Whiner or Winner? (lyndacwatts.wordpress.com)
- Palin admits being a whiner (atlmalcontent.wordpress.com)
- Hitting Bottom, Procrastination, and Self-Correction (psychologytoday.com)
- But I Don’t Like to Exercise (whine)! (blue2darknight.wordpress.com)
- After Saying Her Whining Days Were Done, Palin Whines That Website Buried Her Quote (alan.com)
- TEA AND SYMPATHY – by George Maxwell (everydayfiction.com)