by Madeline Laughs
I was in the middle of writing a blog post late last night about people that actively blog just to hurt other people. The people that write nasty blogs filled with gossip and mean statements about other people in their lives. I had literally banged out keystroke after keystroke of indignation and even rattled off an email to my writing partner about the post I was writing. I was filled with righteousness and marching in a parade of my tirade.
Then I froze in mid keystroke. I realized that perhaps I might be guilty of doing the same thing.
I went to the administrative section of the blog and filtered all of the 300 some odd posts to find just mine. And yes, there they were. I was guilty.
So now I can justify my behavior by stating that everything I have written is done anonymously. However, most of my friends already know who I am if they read this blog. So that’s kind of moot.
Okay, but I don’t name anyone, right? Well gee, if you know me well enough, it’s not hard to figure out who I’m talking about, is it? Moot, moot, moot.
I went back to my new blog post and re-read some of the finer points I had made. Dam, I had a great argument going! I had droned on about the difference between writing about what had actually happened to you, and spreading gossip that you had overheard. Granted, those are two very different issues and worth noting.
I have written about stuff that has actually happened to me, with one exception.
I went back and revisited one particular blog post that was mostly about me, but mostly about someone else. And I had to hit the Edit button. I took out everything that hadn’t happened to me. It was still a viable post, but considerably shorter now. Hm. Had I just eaten my own words?
If I can’t live up to my own standards, then how can I make a point? If I expect other people to feel ashamed for blogging about mean stuff, then how is it okay for me to do it? I edited some more stuff. Then I went back to my blog post about mean bloggers and I hit the Delete key. It wasn’t going to fly. I was too conflicted.
My writing partner was quick to respond with words of encouragement. She said;
“It’s a line you have to walk between getting it off your chest and getting what you want. You are much more honest and braver than me. Sometimes I am like, “oh my but it takes guts to be unpolitically correct and I think it’s good.” But carefully.”
“Honest and braver” is code for ballsy, I think 🙂 And she’s right. It takes guts to put it out there and to have an opinion that differs from the masses. I know that both of us persevere to represent some kind of truth in our writing. Her advice to proceed with caution is good advice and some I will be taking from here on out.
The fact is this, I don’t want my hands tied when it comes to expressing myself. Sometimes my expressions aren’t pretty. All I can do is strive to be a better writer and to convey messages in a light that doesn’t leave me standing naked and exposed and hypocritical. I really try to be a good person. Being hurtful and making fun of someone or laughing at someone’s expense is not part of my agenda on here.
If the person or persons I write about read them and see themselves then I really hope they get the message I’m sending. I do try to be a part of the solution, rather than the mouthpiece for continued dissent. If someone reads it and sees themselves in a post that isn’t about them, then perhaps they were in there all along and I just didn’t know it. Maybe it will help them. And maybe sometimes, it will just piss them off. I can’t control that. I can only control myself.
That’s about all I am willing to do right now. I blog for me. Some days that means I get to have the last word.
And some days I just have to eat my own words. Burp!
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