by Madeline Laughs
I am a proponent of the truth and I tend to seek the truth when I feel it is being hidden from me. I found that some folks just aren’t interested in hearing the truth. If the actual facts do not coincide with their current beliefs then nothing you can say will change their minds or make them behave differently. In fact, screaming the old saying Don’t Kill the Messenger might not be a bad idea because folks that do not want to hear the truth are going to do whatever they can to silence you. Since it’s against the law to kill you, then discrediting you may work the same magic.
Why do people hate people that tell the truth?
There are several age old reasons why the truth is so distasteful. The best one is that the truth hurts. It hurts when the person hearing it has been lying or has something to hide and in telling this truth an innocent person is set free of the web of deception. Yes, it hurts and in some cases, I hope it leaves a mark.
Jack Nicholson was famous for this line in a movie;
“YOU CAN’T HANDLE THE TRUTH!”
Not being able to handle the truth suggests a weakness. It could be a physical weak spot or a mental one, but when someone can’t handle the truth it means they have been living a lie for far too long. It’s time to face the music of truth, whether you like it, or not, because the person that’s been handling it all this time is just about to let it loose all over your world and you better be ready.
I had a friend that was brutally honest. Some people like to pretend they are brutal when it comes to honesty, but they could never hold a candle to this guy. There were times I actually accused him of being a bully because his truths were to the bone bloody. He never sugar coated anything. He called it like he saw it and he never hesitated to bring it into the light for everyone else to examine. He taught me a lot about telling the truth.
His name was Rob Drake.
I grew up in a very Southern household and there were things you just didn’t talk about. If they did enter the conversation you were taught to gloss over it with a white lie here and there. It was the genteel thing to do.
My first few encounters with Rob were rocky and that’s being genteel about it. I couldn’t stand him or his crass way of picking apart a conversation. His favorite thing to yell whenever I was in the midst of sharing my day or a new experience was “Bollocks Kate!” Startled by his outburst, I would give him a nasty look and continue what I was saying. He was patient and would wait until I finished. Then he would merrily point out the numerous embellishments I had added in order to make my story more interesting.Why would I want to lie when the truth of the situation could be just as interesting to anyone that was listening?
It was a painful process. For me.
Over the years his teachings stuck with me and when I started writing he read every word and praised me whenever we had the chance to speak. He told me that while my writing was prolific and beautifully strung together, I still had the bad habit of embellishment, but he forgave me.
There are some people that hate other people for telling the truth, but I will always love my friend, Mr. Rob Drake, for making me pursue the truth, because it is my right to know truth and it is my duty to tell it.
My friend Rob died around the first of this year, 2012. He died at home surrounded by his small family. He had known he was dying for the last year of his life. He had pancreatic cancer and it was terminal. When he found out he was ill he quit his practice and decided to visit all of his favorite surfing spots in the world.
My friendship with Rob spanned 30 years of spotty communication, but always knowing that we were friends forever was truer than true. God rest your soul, my friend.
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