Drawing a line on Facebook

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by Madeline Laughs

I used to put up with anything a Facebook friend was interested in dishing out, but no more. This past year I started working on ridding myself of a certain personality type among people I call “friend”, and Facebook has taught me some very valuable lessons.

Unbeknownst to just about everyone living their lives out loud within the confines of this website, they expose the seedy underbelly of their true selves. Not everyone has a seedy underbelly, but the ones that do sure as hell let it shine like a beacon.

I have a list of behaviors I will no longer tolerate on Facebook.  These are my own opinions of transgressions meriting a deletion from my Facebook experience from here on out.

1. Judgmental, preachy comments or updates.

If you want to post about how great you think you are then you better be prepared to back it up with exactly how the rest of us can be great too. I am weary with these holier-than-thou Facebookers that think the rest of the population has no clue about how to be holy too.

Telling us that you get long with everyone is tantamount to bullshit as far as I’m concerned. If you honestly got along with everyone then you’d have absolutely no reason to post that platitude. Climb down from your preacher-cloud and be real about how you feel. In reality you’re having problems getting along with anyone because you can’t control them. That’s what you need to be working on…your issues with control.


3. Lover’s quarrels.

4. Verbal attacks against me or against any of my friends. If you want to attack one of my friends on your own Wall, then don’t expect any support from me.

If you are someone I barely know and you attack one of my friends on your own Wall, then expect to get deleted. I have zero tolerance for this kind of crap. Other people might think it’s okay to watch this play out. In fact, they might even get a little charge out of seeing someone taken out this way, but I don’t.

If I ask you privately not to participate in validating an attack like this and you refuse and continue to validate someone that is being mean to me or to one of my friends, then expect to get deleted. Your total lack of respect and decorum is appalling to me and that is not the kind of people I want to associate with on Facebook or in real life.

5. Braggarts and boastful liars, or just plain old liars.

If I catch you in one lie then it’s a given you’ve lied about other things too. I will no longer give liars and people that brag beyond the socially acceptable level any space in my Facebook world. Consider yourself deleted.

6. People that initiate personal attacks of any kind on their Facebook Walls, especially if their profiles are set for public consumption. I have realized that anyone initiating a personal attack, where the alleged enemy is identifiable, will not hesitate to turn the tables on you eventually.

I am guilty of this in past Facebook fights, but I stopped doing this years ago. All it took was for my behavior to be mirrored back to me once or twice and I learned quick that this did not feel good to me at all. If I ever feel compelled to post a thought about a disagreement I have about someone I’m unhappy with I always make it ambiguous and I add some thoughtful comments that would make the situation better for everyone it might happen to. It’s my goal to help people, not to hurt.

7. Bullies.

8. Mean spirited political or religious discussions and comments of any kind.

9. Duplicity.

On a few occasions I’ve had people volunteer to do something or to behave a certain way and found out much later that they never followed through with their promise. Two faced people are toxic and I have absolutely no use for them.

10. Spammers.

I don’t mind being invited to events, sales or parties, but when people start imposing their dogma on me about fitness, diet, or medical health, I tend to get more than just a little irritated.

These are my top ten Facebook peeves. As time goes on I’m sure I’ll add to the list, but for now, ten is plenty. I have no plans to open my friend list and start making deletions today, but at least I have a guideline now I can follow for the future. I plan to start having fun and enjoying myself on Facebook in 2013. There will be no more drama or hurt feelings as a result of some asshole’s antics on a social network. If they can’t play nice, then they can’t play with me.

About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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4 Responses to Drawing a line on Facebook

  1. Mrs D says:

    Your facebook posts have been resonating with me a lot..I’m in the midst of trying to decide if/how I got about disentangling myself from some of the people I have called ‘friends’ online..At the moment I’m not even getting on there as it does my head in. Keep up the great posts 🙂


    • Thank you Mrs. D. I am so happy that writing about what I am going through and how it’s being processed is giving you comfort. That is the whole goal here at Spread Information. So often events happen in our lives and no one ever talks about how it feels, or what they did to get through it. If Facebook has done nothing else constructive for me, it has definitely taught me the art of creating and enforcing personal boundaries. I’ll be exploring this topic in depth over the next few weeks and offering my own solutions on how I have learned to deal with this.

      In the meantime, you might be intrigued by a story I wrote on here about a horrifying Facebook experience. Here’s the link for Chapter 1 of Insanity. It’s 50 chapters altogether. I’d love to know your thoughts and if you made it all the way to the end of the story too.



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