When a Man Hates a Woman

by Madeline Laughs
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Carl Jung (Photo credit: o admirador secreto)

Usually you’ll hear about when a man loves a woman. But not today, even though the title reminds me of that Percy Sledge song; When a Man Loves a Woman.

When a man loves a woman
Can’t keep his mind on nothing else
He’ll trade the world
For the good thing he’s found
If she’s bad he can’t see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he put her down

When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Tryin’ to hold on to what he needs
He’d give up all his comfort
Sleep out in the rain
If she said that’s the way it ought to be

Well, this man loves a woman
I gave you everything I had
Tryin’ to hold on to your precious love
Baby, please don’t treat me bad

When a man loves a woman
Down deep in his soul
She can bring him such misery
If she plays him for a fool
He’s the last one to know
Lovin’ eyes can’t ever see

When a man loves a woman
He can do no wrong
He can never own some other girl
Yes when a man loves a woman
I know exactly how he feels
‘Cause baby, baby, baby, you’re my world

When a man loves a woman…..

Believe it, or not, there are just as many men out there that hate women as there are men that love them.

They like having a woman around. Notice I said “around” instead of in their lives. They like having someone wash their clothes and keep their house clean. They like having a steady piece of ass in their bed at night and a home cooked breakfast in the morning. But just try to get a little respect from this man and you’ll get the smackdown he thinks you deserve.

Men that hate women think they’re stupid.

A smart woman is like a fish riding a bicycle, it just isn’t possible. Women are too emotional and too crazy to manage very long without a man around. She’ll need training and shaming to learn to know her place and if it takes a few well placed swats upside her head, then that’s just what he’ll do.

Any man that talks about the women in his past like they are to blame for everything wrong in his life, is a man you need to beware of. You see, women aren’t human beings to him, they are things, possessions, god given rites of passage. A way to keep him sexually satisfied, catered to and taken care of.

A man that hates women will never change his ways. What he has learned can not be unlearned without intense professional therapy for many, many years. To him, what he thinks and feels about women is the same fact of life as knowing he will occasionally have to clip his fingernails. It’s ingrained and a huge part of who he is.

Recently I confronted a friend that I suspected hated women.

He proclaimed to love women and everything about them, but he always talked about the women from his past like they were dogs. They were the ones that screwed everything up for him. It was never his fault and he took no ownership for his part in the relationships.

He was chiding one of our mutual friends for going back and dating a woman that he had dated once before. He was laughing and kept calling her used goods. This was coupled with my own experiences with him that week when he told my husband he was not inviting me to a concert they were going to that week because it was a guy’s night “She’s just going to have to suck it up!” My husband invited me anyway because that’s the kind of man he is. I declined based on this friend’s declaration though.

I had finally heard enough and turned to him and asked “You really don’t like women at all, do you?” His smile faded and he replied “Well, a lot of women have hurt me in the past.” He never realized that he had just admitted that I was right. He didn’t like women.

He asked me why I was being so mean to him and I told him it was not my intention to be mean, or to make him angry. I was simply telling him this because I was his friend and this was how he appeared to me…a woman.

He left that night without saying goodbye and sometime during the night he deleted me from his friend list on Facebook. I haven’t spoken to him since. I guess that was how he decided to handle what I told him, rather than take a good strong look within.

He still attempts to lure my husband into forays that don’t include me and my husband still invites me in spite of him.

Perhaps what I told him might one day have an impact, perhaps not. I wish him well with whatever he does in life, but until he decides to work on his own issues, he offers nothing of value for me, because I am a woman.

If you think you’re in a relationship with a man that hates women, chances are you are not wrong. If he has no respect for your time or your schedule, if he hates your friends and family and tries to keep you from them, if he belittles and shames you regularly, then your man hates women.

I would strongly suggest that any woman in this love/hate entanglement seek professional counseling. The first thing she needs to figure out is why she feels this is treatment from a man that she deserves. This kind of relationship is mentally damaging and can also be potentially harmful in physical abuse as well as mental.

If you suspect one of your friends might be in a relationship with a man that hates women offer your support and your kindness, but do not ever get involved. This woman will have to decide for herself that she needs to get free of this involvement on her own and nothing you do will fix this for her. If you involve yourself you run the risk of losing your friendship because she will learn to hate you for what you know about her and for trying to come between her and the man she loves. Besides if you think this man hates her, just wait until he figures out you’re trying to get his woman to leave him. When he turns that laser beam of hatred on you, then you’ll really know what it feels like to be in her shoes.

Yes, there are men out there that live and breath the scent of a woman. You need to be able to tell the difference between the ones that see us as companions and those that think we are prey.

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About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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8 Responses to When a Man Hates a Woman

  1. whine-wine-whatever says:

    Exceptional piece, Madeline!!! *applause*

    Two things:

    1) From your essay: “If you think you’re in a relationship with a man that hates women, chances are you are not wrong. If he has no respect for your time or your schedule, if he hates your friends and family and tries to keep you from them, if he belittles and shames you regularly, then your man hates women.”
    * * * * *
    This is DEAD-ON advice. If you, the reader, are a woman and see your relationship ANYWHERE in the above paragraph, don’t laugh it off or turn away. Don’t make excuses for your man. Don’t make excuses for you. Get Help. Talk to someone. And GET OUT as soon as you can. You’ll be better off alone.

    2) Generally, a man will treat you the way he treats his mother, and will often mirror his father’s attitude toward women. Watch him interact with his folks. Are there displays of affection — hugs/kisses/handshakes? Listen carefully to the way he talks about them. If his relationship with his parents, especially his mother, is dysfunctional, he’s not suddenly going to become a prince who treasures your every action and word. Open your eyes and ears and be objective. Looking at him through rose-colored glasses will only set you up for disappointment. Or worse. Much worse.

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  2. Disillusioned says:

    Excellent article! Almost all women haters will adamantly deny that they are misogynists. They may say that such a supposition is not only false, but downright preposterous, and that you must stupid to even have such an irrational thought. Or could it be “that time of the month” again?

    See ”Men who hate women”: http://wp.me/p1YH7L-3K

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  4. cgemc says:

    I need professional help!!!!

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  5. cgemc says:

    Maybe a lobotomy….

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