by Madeline Laughs
Dr. Judith Orloff has some interesting information that will shed light on whether or not you are involved with someone that is a narcissist. Her website offers a quiz you can take that will give you results, based on how you answer the questions.
I took the quiz thinking about one of my family members.
The questions are:
1. Does the person act as if life revolves around him or her?
2. Do I have to compliment them to get their attention or approval?
3. Do they constantly steer the conversation back to themselves?
4. Do they downplay my feelings or interests?
5. If I disagree, do they become cold or withholding?
I scored 4 out of 5 and here is what the advice was:
You are in a relationship with someone with definite narcissistic traits. Everything is “all about them.” Keep your expectations realistic. Enjoy their good qualities, but look for your nurturing from people who can reciprocate.
Narcissists do not feel empathy and are resistant to change their behavior. It is rare that the mental health community can treat them because they are not honest and refuse to cooperate or change the way they treat others.
Empathy is the ability to understand and to share the feelings of another.
When you lack empathy, you can be very hard to get close to. Imagine laughing when someone gets physically hurt and bleeds. Imagine seeing a small animal starve to death, and feeling nothing except annoyance that you have to dispose of the body. Imagine knowing that your actions may cause someone extreme emotional pain and anguish, and not caring about it.
Who would want to get close to anyone that lacks empathy? But we do it everyday without even thinking about the consequences it may have on us later on in our lives.
I took another one of her online quizzes entitled Are You an Emotional Vampire? I answered all of the questions honestly and was a little apprehensive to click the button for my results. Here they are:
Your energy is getting more vibrant and alive as you begin to set better boundaries with negative people.
I’m going to close with that. Here’s wishing everyone’s energy gets a bit more vibrant and alive as we all make a conscious effort to reduce the number of negative people in our lives.
- Sandy Weiner: 6 Ways to Recognize And Stop Dating A Narcissist (huffingtonpost.com)
- Will I Ever Be Good Enough? (psychologytoday.com)
- Working with a Narcissist (psychologytoday.com)
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- What Makes Someone Chase a Narcissist? (lynettedartycross.com)
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