A certain number of friends…

by Madeline Laughs

certain number of friendsI was commenting on a thread on Facebook one night when I realized someone else was commenting that I couldn’t see. I sent a private message to the person I was chatting with and asked who else was in the thread and she told me. It was someone I had blocked 2 years ago and had no intention of unblocking. The guy is a menace to society and a plague on humanity…in my most humble of opinions.

Now I knew that she disliked this fella just about as much as I did, so this made me curious. I asked her, “Why are you friends with this guy on Facebook?” She answered that she left him on her friend list “because of work“.  

Ha! Because of work?!

Are you fucking kidding me?

That would be my number one reason for deleting someone on my friend list, unless the only reason I had a Facebook page was “because of work“. Then and only then, would I leave someone on my friend list that I truly didn’t like. Even then, I might have them on a Restricted List as well.

restricted listNow I knew her Facebook page was more to her than work because, like me, she posts personal stuff all the time. I didn’t press her though. If she’s silly enough to allow someone a window into her personal life that has already shown that he will use any and all personal information he can garner against you if he gets the chance, then that’s totally up to her.

I did throw out a word of caution to her though. She is my friend and it is my duty to at least do that much. There have been times in my life that I wished someone had cared enough to do that for me. It would have saved me a world of hurt if they had.

When I come across situations like this on Facebook, the first thought I always have is “That poor Facebook schmuck. He has no idea that this person doesn’t even like him. He’s only on their friend list out of pity, or duty, or whatever and he doesn’t even know it.

I’m sure there have been times when people have the same thoughts about me on occasion and that’s why I am asking that if I am only on your list because of some weird obligation you might have, then delete me. Don’t feel obligated. I won’t mind. I want people to have me on their friend list because they like me, find me entertaining, might want to meet me someday, etc.

I never want anyone to feel obligated to add me to their friend list, or to their lives.

No one is obligated to be your friend, on Facebook or even in real life. Feeling like you have to give someone an all access pass to your personal life, whether it’s for work, or not, means you have lost perspective on what matters when you’re being social.

If you have people on your friend list that cause you anxiety or inhibit your ability to share, then you aren’t doing it right.

Surround yourself with people you like and you’ll discover that being on a social network can be a fun time, instead of a job.

About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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