judge not

by Madeline Laughs


Every word written here is out there for public consumption. We aren’t interested in hurting people, so we change the names and sometimes the circumstances. Sometimes when we write, our story shares an issue and we are careful to always offer a solution. What good would sharing a problem be if we haven’t taken the time to work out a solution to share too?

If you don’t have a solution, then you’re part of the problem.

No one is perfect and we are all trying to get along in life the best way we can. Don’t judge anyone for sharing their pain because you have no idea how much it hurts to tell it.

About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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8 Responses to judge not

  1. Patinspire says:

    Great post and so true 🙂


  2. Excellent ideals you have here! Keep it up.


  3. Disillusioned says:

    I don’t see why the person who brings up a problem is obliged to offer a solution. Awareness, discussion, and many minds at work can result in more and better solutions. Brainstorming is one method of engaging a group in problem solving, but first, someone must present the problem—unsolved. We must solve our own personal problems but it can be helpful to hear different viewpoints. With problems that effect us but that we, as individuals, cannot solve; awareness alone is of value. Whistleblowers are vital for justice and progress. There wouldn’t be many if they were prevented from drawing attention to a problem without offering a solution.


  4. Disillusioned says:

    Judging and blaming a person is destructive and does not help solve a problem. But does anyone ever admit to doing it? When I have attempted to draw attention to such behavior, the reaction is ALWAYS denial, and usually anger.


  5. I couldn’t agree more! 🙂


  6. Reblogged this on I Am An After School Special and commented:
    It seems I am not the only blogger out there being criticized for maintaining my anonymity, sharing events from my life that involve other people. That have ensured their anonymity as well by changing names, not revealing job titles etc.

    I adore and totally , not only agree, but have held as a personal belief for some time.

    How we perceive others, especially through the type of writing that encompasses a blog, but really is not exempt from every form of art, is a reflection of self.

    Readers do not know the authors motives of the posts the share. That is assuming there is any for that matter. To deduce or interpret a post or an entire blog for that matter as a malicious attempt to hurt others and self- exalt is frankly kind of insane and very telling of their own morals.

    To conceive the purpose of this mass media, social media norm is anything more than a vessel to express one’s ideas, tell a story, express a philosophical belief, investigate an interest, share creative endeavors or mearly to start a a dialogue on a particular subject area – to name a few, is not normal for this normal means of self of expression.

    To deduce what a writer means is always a reflection of what you believe it to mean. We cannot know, unless expressly noted by the artist, what any piece of artistry was inspired by and what they had intended to convey with their work.

    Recently I wrote about guilt. A commenter asked what I felt guilty about. I listed about 10 items, which by the way is a mere fraction of the total, his response was very interesting and I was sincerely taken aback by his interpretation.

    He said something along the lines of, all the things I felt guilty for were because not having done the things I felt guilty about or tbat I expressed them, we’re based in “making myself look good to others”.

    Hmm. Okay. Fascinating and extremely narcissist interpretation (because yes, feeling guilt for not being able to spend more time with my pet bird made me look good to who? The bird?). This one example personifies, in my humble opinion, the quote highlighted in the article as originally posted by blogger of “Research to be Done”.

    This commenter is seems lives through the eyes of how others perceive him and therefore assumes that all people must view the world in the same way.

    Not so sir. Simply not so.

    – the non- judgemental, judging others for being judgemental, audacious amateur blogger


    • Disillusioned says:

      Speculating about the writer’s motives is a diversion from relating to/understanding/responding to the subject matter. It’s dismissing the point of the article. What do we find if we speculate about the motives of someone who does that? Denial of a personal problem? Looking for someone to blame? Aggression and desire for one-upmanship? Is it an arrogant ignorant application of an amateur psychoanalytical theory with the purpose of simplifying reality to feel more in control?


  7. God thank you do much. I don’t feel alone anymore for the often viscious remarks made on my blog.

    I no longer feel alone. I am in the company of others. Totally reblogged this! (it’s awesome to have these thoughts spill from someone besides myself as of course the naysayers would retort that my view was wrong and no one could ever believe me)

    Thank you again 🙂


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