This is something everyone, men and women, can benefit from knowing.
You’re happily moving along, living your life and having a good time when suddenly someone out there decides you need to be taken down a notch, or two. So they start throwing their emotional bricks your way. It could be jealousy or rage or just a bad day that sets them off, but they’re pitching their bricks in your direction.
When someone hurls bricks your way, it’s going to hurt, but it doesn’t have to hurt for long.
Once you realize that their bricks, molded out of vindictive and bitter behavior, really have nothing to do with who you are, you’ll stop hurting. Those bricks they are tossing are their own weighty issues and they have stockpiles of them they are dealing with. Maybe it feels good for a moment to get rid of some of them, but that good feeling for them is fleeting because there are a lot more bricks there than the few they threw at you.
Instead of allowing their toxic behavior to affect you, ignore them and pay attention to the people in your life that aren’t toxic.
When someone tosses bricks at me I try to feel sorry for them that they hurt so much that their only relief is to try to hurt me. I try to steer clear of engaging them because it doesn’t help. They have a pile of bricks for a reason and the only person that can help them is themselves. If they want to destroy the brick foundation their life stands on for the sake of hurting me, that’s their decision to make.
You don’t have to just stand there and be pelted either. Take those bricks and build yourself a mansion with a nice patio and invite the people over that you appreciate and celebrate. Be thankful for good friends and let the brick tossers remind you that being a target of vindictive behavior just means someone out there knows your life is wonderful, they just can’t figure out how to have that for themselves.
Now if you’ll excuse me, I think a nice brick sidewalk showing my friends the way to my mansion is a splendid idea 🙂