Nothing Goes Away

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Nothing ever goes way until it teaches us what we need to know.

~Pema Chodron

I am starting to think that this is so true. The lessons we need to learn in life and the admissions we need to make to ourselves, manifest over and over again in different ways, until we finally face them and learn why they exist. I think this is true with thoughts, people and even with illness. Whatever the Universe has in store for us is taught by way of living and by being alive.  

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What is going on in your life today that continues to plague you with questions?

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What lesson is the Universe trying to teach you that you haven’t been paying attention to?

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Whatever that lesson is, rest assured that someday you will catch the elusive tail end of it and ride it all the way back to your heart. Until then, take good care and listen to your thoughts as well as you listen to others.

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About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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5 Responses to Nothing Goes Away

  1. So very true- our lessons continue to manifest for us in the most unique of ways

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    • My biggest lesson has been with duplicity. People telling me things that they think I want to hear. Sometimes it was to keep from hurting me. Sometimes it was to hurt me. Either way, finding out I had been tricked and betrayed was something I turned inward on myself, more so than I turned outward, towards the person lying. I kept wondering what was wrong with me that people just could not be honest.

      Then I started really looking at the lies I was being told and discovered that they were generally not about me at all. In conclusion, they shouldn’t have concerned me because the person telling the lie wasn’t worthy of my time or my anguish.

      Now when I think I’m being lied to, I just turn the other way. I just don’t have time anymore to wade through deception. I would rather spend my time with people that are secure enough with themselves that duplicity is not a go-to behavior for them. And those people are out there. Once you make that conscious decision, it seems they are drawn to you like a magnet.

      This has been something missing in some of my social connections. I was stumbling across this same pattern time after time and not even realizing it. Then I slowed down and started taking inventory and really paying attention. People didn’t seek me out just so they could lie to me. I was seeking them out. I wasn’t purposefully doing it, but subconsciously I knew the personality type and that is what I gravitated towards. The drama and the intrigue that is usually plagued with lies of all sorts.

      When I created my own personal boundaries one of them was to avoid drama. I have stuck to that one religiously. I had to let a lot of people go because of it, but in the long run it’s better for them and it’s definitely better for me. They won’t have to lie to me anymore and I won’t have to process it. Now when I see this pattern start to rear it’s ugly head, I just shake my head, regroup and move on past it. I refuse to participate.

      I am finally starting to enjoy and appreciate my friendships more, now that I can actually have faith in their authenticity. It’s been an amazing and long journey for me, but it has been worth it.

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  2. whine-wine-whatever says:

    Yes, dear Madeline, it has been a long journey. I’m so grateful that you were confident enough to share that journey — sometimes in “real time” — because I learned a great deal from you about myself. While I’m still a major work-in-progress, I try to be more consciously aware of my interactions with people. It’s not easy for me, because I’m naturally naive, trusting, and believe what people tell me right off the bat, rather than being wary or looking for the “tells” like shifty eyes or not looking into my eyes when they speak to me. This phrase of yours is well-said: “I am finally starting to enjoy and appreciate my friendships more, now that I can actually have faith in their authenticity.” The key is faith in authenticity. I used to offer that right up front; now I’m realizing that it must be earned. And this quote: “Nothing ever goes way until it teaches us what we need to know.” is dynamite. Like me, I think there are many people who go through life on cruise control, never truly evaluating a friend’s honesty, integrity, compassion, just accepting who and what they are. We go through life on auto-pilot and find it easier to sweep a conflict or hurt feelings under the rug where it can fester rather than face it honestly and head-on. I’ve learned a boatload of stuff from your journey. Sorry that you had to travel that path, but I am trying to apply some of those lessons to my own life. So, thank you (I think!).

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    • I am so happy that you have been able to take something away from my writing that is useful. I try not to give the impression that everyone needs to be paranoid, but most definitely, noticing when someone is overstepping and saying something about it, rather than letting it fester, is the healthier way. I am still a huge work in progress though, so there will always be lessons to learn along the way. Personally, you have taught me how to deal with some issues with a softer hand and for that I thank you my friend. Thank you, thank you ❤

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