How many of us out here have always dreaded the holidays simply because we have family members that are overbearing and aggressive bullies? Believe me when I tell you that you are not alone. The worst part of it all is that bullies really look forward to the holidays because this is their chance to sink their claws into family members they love to beat up on. Whether it’s just a rude and obnoxious relative, or a tyrannical whiner that ruins the day with their constant demands to be the center of attention, bullies can make every family gathering a real pain in the ass, but holidays are an especially large stage to carry out their theatrics.
With everyone applauding the whole “family togetherness” all around us, from television commercials to the mom saying we need to forgive and forget, many of us will hunch our backs, grit our teeth, and come to the family dinner on Thanksgiving Day this year. We will subject ourselves to yet another feast that leaves us with sour indigestion and in desperate need of a month to recover from the damage to our sense of self, just from dealing with the holiday bullies.
I’m here to tell you that this year you have my permission to make other plans.
Do it today!
Plan a meal with loving and supportive friends instead. Surround yourself with folks that respect and actually like to be around you without being compelled to tear you to shreds just to make their petty, whiny selves feel superior.
There is no law, written or unwritten, that says the holidays have to be spent around family. When family is a broken and dysfunctional shell that beats on your heart rather than making your heart beat, leave them to their own devices and have a happier holiday this year. Family is great for a lot of things, but in order for them to be great, they have to be nice. If they aren’t nice, then pick yourself a brand new family from the good friends you have made along the way of this rocky road we all call living.
I am thankful for the good friends I have in my life. I am thankful for all of you guys out there today reading this and knowing that it’s okay to avoid family drama and have a great time this year. I am thankful for the parts of my own biological family that I am still connected to and I am thankful most of all for having a loving and supportive partner to share my own holiday magic with this year and every year to come.
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!