I had been listening to a friend complain about her sister’s new boyfriend for weeks. According to her, the man didn’t really love her sister. He wasn’t good enough for her sister. He wasn’t a bad guy, he just wasn’t good enough.
When I saw the sister and her new boyfriend together, I saw two people madly and happily in love with each other. They fit like gloves and their happiness was infectious and it made me happy to be around them.
I was not happy to keep hearing the sister complain about them and I defended this new love to her.
She wouldn’t listen.
After a while, instead of hearing what my friend was actually saying, all I heard her saying in my head was “I’m bitter. I’m alone and I’m lonely. I’m jealous. If I’m not happy, they can’t be happy. I’m so bitter.” Even though that wasn’t what she was saying to me, it was really what she meant, it was the only message she was sending.
When a happy occurrence fails to have a positive affect on you, take a good look within. Chances are the negativity you feel is nothing more than a longing to have that same happiness for yourself. Instead of condemning it, be involved and let their joy light the way to the happiness you seek.
I wish everyone peace and the joyous feeling that new love can bring to you.