Someone said to me once “You need to be the bigger person here and just forgive and forget!”. If this had happened a few years ago, they might have elicited a little bit of guilt out of me. I might have argued about why I didn’t feel like forgiving someone that hurt me, but Not Today. (<<<<click this link for some helpful ways to save yourself from having to deal with a bully)
I smiled and replied “I don’t have to try to be the bigger person, because I already am the bigger person. I refused to allow them to keep abusing and bullying me. I forgave myself for putting up with the abuse from that person for so many years. Then I forgot all about them. That makes me a much BIGGER person than you can even imagine.”
Forgive and Forget is just another way for bullies to continue getting away with being bullies. The only person you ever need to answer to is yourself. The only person you ever need to forgive under those circumstances is yourself. Then you’re free to move about the cabin because once you get there, the turbulence disappears.
Now forget about the drama and get on with life.