Oh dear…this is a topic about something I see happen more often than I care to be a party to, and yet, no one ever calls them out for it. It’s something I strive not to ever do because I can see the pomposity of it. When I’m sitting through a litany of someone else’s over inflated and arrogant boasting about how great they are…I simply want to smack the living shit out of them and move on.
Why do they do it?
There’s also the humblebrag. This is a new term that describes another kind of bragging that people do, even if they don’t think they’re bragging. Here’s what the Urban Dictionary had to say about it.
Subtly letting others now about how fantastic your life is while undercutting it with a bit of self-effacing humor or “woe is me” gloss.
Uggggh just ate about fifteen piece of chocolate gotta learn to control myself when flying first class or they’ll cancel my modelling contract LOL :p #humblebrag”
This totally cracks me up because I know a woman who is the humblebrag queen! She’s constantly on Facebook talking about her humble, yet totally fabulous life running marathons and eating junk food she’s not supposed to have because (and this is what cracked me up about Urban Dictionary’s definition) she’s trying to be a model!! Every single post is about her, or her man, or how great they are and that they do great things and have a great life, etc. These are peppered with posts about how shitty other people are though. That’s what brings her “I’m fab!” posts down to the humblebrag level, like they were torpedoed.
I am also guilty of the humblebrag, on occasion. I try not to be, but sometimes my ego will get the best of me.
I really don’t mind hearing how great someone else is, as long as it’s not from them. Doesn’t that make better sense? You can be awesomely great, but if you’re compelled to constantly remind everyone of your credentials, it’s going to fall on deaf ears, or disbelieving ears, because no one truly wants to hear stuff like that. I know that has to bruise some feelings here, but it’s the truth folks.
Truly great people never feel the need to tell you how great they are. They just go about their lives being great.
When you really are great, you don’t care if anyone knows how great you are, because you know how great you are.
I don’t want to hear about your education. Unless I ask you where you went to college, or I need an assurance that you know what you’re talking about, then don’t talk to me about your education, or your degrees, because I don’t care. I know from experience that you can have a wall full of sheep skins, and still be the stupidest motherfucker I have ever seen.
With all of this being disclosed and exposed I’m going to tell you something else you might not want to hear. Whether you are the braggart, or you are on the receiving end of the bragging, this is going to hurt like a bee sting. People that brag to this magnitude may find it nearly impossible to break this bad habit. I KNOW! That is an awfully heinous revelation, but it’s true. It would take them years, maybe even decades, to learn to stop short before they expound on how great they think you should think they are.
People brag for many different reasons. To put your finger on one particular reason and to think it can be cured or fixed, is simply wishful thinking. The one thing you can do is be mindful of your own bragging and/or call someone out if they start bragging and it’s annoying you. That’s about it. Oh! And I love this other article I found along the same lines of this subject. Please check it out too.
Hopefully one day the braggart might discover that when we are present, we are all great.