I am all for equality and being paid the same, or better if it warrants, when it comes to men and women, but there are some places where gender differences are markedly different. One of those is on Facebook.
Note: The following observations are made about people that generally use Facebook on a regular basis, whether it’s just to read items, or to stay connected with friends.
Women treat Facebook much the same as they treat ladies luncheons or get-togethers. They love to chat with one another and share ideas via social media. They also seek solace from friends when they need it and talk about daily activities like recipes or workouts on Facebook. Women are typically more social than men when it comes to publicly being social with each other.
Men treat Facebook like a business. They rarely share personal or intimate details, preferring rather to share a link about their job interests, politics or beloved hobbies and sports, instead. Sometimes they’ll share a joke, but it’s rare that a man in a committed relationship will go beyond those invisible boundaries. It’s not because they are forbidden, because they aren’t. The same rings true for homosexual men in committed and/or married relationships.
It simply means that this man is happy and receiving the attention he wants and needs, at home.
And no, you can not make that same claim about a woman because it just doesn’t stick when you throw it against the wall.
When I see a single man, not in any kind of relationship, dating someone or otherwise, posting things like:
“Lookit me! I am so witty and cute and super smart!” (insert sarcasm…of course they won’t post this exactly, but close enough)
I think, “now there goes a single man reaching out on Facebook for some much needed attention.” Because that’s what he’s doing. If not, then why post anything even close to that?
Single woman on Facebook tend to post more selfie pictures of themselves in sexy poses, like the legs on the beach pictures that I love to make fun of. Obviously from the looks of my leg selfies I am not fishing for any dates. Most of their posts, however, are geared towards their girlfriends and self improvement.
When I see a man I know is in a committed relationship, married or dating someone, posting things like:
“Lookit me! I am so witty and cute and super smart!”
It makes my skin crawl. It really ought to make your skin crawl too because this is the behavior of a predator on the prowl. These flirtatious, gregarious come-ons, worded to reel folks in, especially women, are lethal to relationships. Men are typically classified as the Hunters and this is the action of one that is hunting and/or fishing.
Do yourself a favor and don’t take the bait.
Don’t flirt back.
If you happen to see your man on Facebook more than three times a week and all he posts are cutesy remarks trying to be charming, it might be time for you to have a Private Chat with him about how you can help soothe his loneliness or ease his worries at home, where they belong.