be kind, but be smart about it

be kind

Have you heard the saying, “Be kind to unkind people because they need it the most”? I’m thinking it’s probably credited to Mother Teresa and I’m sure whoever said it was just a true martyr in the biggest sense. I’m not interested in being a martyr anymore and if you’re anything like me, neither are you.  

I think the whole premise behind the platitude is that if we are kind to unkind people somehow (not sure exactly how though) that unkind person will miraculously change their evil ways. I am here to tell you that this premise is nothing short of a bullshit lie. When you’re kind to an unkind person they display an arrogance and entitlement that is beyond belief. Granted, your karma improves exponentially, but is it even worth  the headache? I’m going to say…NO.

I’m not even describing a tit for tat kind of situation, like you be nice to someone only because they’re nice to you. It’s not that at all! This is simply self preservation and, OMgosh! SELF ESTEEM!! Have some love for yourself. ❤

Here’s a truth; be kind to yourself and limit contact with unkind people.

Don’t ask yourself if an unkind person needs your kindness.

Ask yourself if they deserve it. 

I am definitely not telling you to be unkind! Be kind because you’re a kind person, but reserve those shining moments when love is present. As for the rest, you can be cordial and polite, without ever exposing yourself, or opening yourself up for the drama of dealing with someone that will never add anything of quality to your life and be unkind to you while they’re doing it.

Be kind, but be smart about it.

About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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4 Responses to be kind, but be smart about it

  1. connie says:

    You got it!

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Eric Ledger says:

    Ever read The Farmer and the Viper, anyone?


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