Sometimes I blog about the major jerks in everyone’s life, even my own. I’m not particularly interested in the jerk’s opinions about what I write, or about how I feel. I’m intelligent enough to realize that if I wanted them to know what I had to say, I could maintain contact and email them a link or make sure their friends know. But I figure why bother being that obvious?
More importantly, why be like them? Those are all solutions they use in order to continue the cycle of abuse that feeds them. I will never seek them out, no matter what happens. Making your feelings apparent to the people that are abusing and bullying you is an exercise in futility and it will make you stay stuck in a place that is never going to feel good, no matter how much lipstick you apply.
You don’t seek them out again and you certainly don’t hang around waiting for them to get what they deserve. Believe it or not, sometimes nothing bad ever happens to the jerks in our lives. I know that is a bit disappointing, but it’s true. I guess if you want some kind of consolation under those circumstances, you can always be grateful that you aren’t them. How miserable must life be that they had to bully you just to make themselves feel better?
I continue on here with my journey towards self care, self love and self awareness and I send out this little reminder to anyone suffering from abuse, or recovering, that we are all with you out there. When you think the only choice you have is to go backwards, always take one more step toward the light. You are not alone.