They say that imitation is the highest form of flattery. I say that whoever came up with that platitude never had a copycat to contend with. Someone who copies everything you do, right down to the scent you wear, can be simply annoying, but if you stand back and take a second look at this person, perhaps you can find enough of yourself in there to consider them worthwhile. After all, they have become a mini-me, of sorts.
The things you are busy being annoyed by, are things you yourself do. Not the copying, but the actual thing being copied. You do that too. You dress that way and if someone copies your wardrobe then it means you’re a trendsetter! That’s your signature scent, but if someone else wears it, it doesn’t mean it will even smell the same, but when the two of you walk through a room you’re going to have an impact. Those were your catch phrases, but if someone else uses them do they mean less? No! It just means they get used more and again, you’re a trendsetter!
The things that annoy you, are things you do. You’re watching another person do them and that might feel threatening, almost like they are stealing your identity, but they aren’t. This truly is flattery when it’s a friend or a little sister or brother. They see something they can relate to, something they aspire to do or be, so they emulate. Sometimes they just need to make a new persona for themselves because they’ve lost what made them special. If you are the most special person in their life, then you will be the one they look to for that guidance. Becoming someone can be a scary task, especially if you were someone before and that person has faded into the past and disappeared. When you already have someone in your life that you feel is the best, then it makes sense to take on what you love about them and later make it into something of your own. In time both of you will go back to be originals, but until then, it’s nice to have something in common you share.
This kind of behavior has never annoyed me. That could be that few people have ever copied me, that I know of. When I see it happening I try to make it easier and more fun for the person to mold whatever it is they see worthy in me, into something for themselves. It’s a privilege and an honor. It’s something that humbles me and I will cheer for their progress.
We copycat celebrities all the time.
There is a difference between a harmless copycat and a stalker psycho, like in the movie, Single White Female. Man, that was a scary movie! I miss Bridget Fonda though. Where in the world did she go?! In this thriller movie, Bridget puts an ad in the local paper looking for a female roommate. Jennifer Jason Leigh answers the ad and over the course of a few weeks, or days, she mimics every single detail, right down to the haircut, of Bridget Fonda. At first Bridget was slightly annoyed that Jennifer was being this weird copycat, but later she realized Jennifer was actually a psycho. Then she murders Bridget’s dog and her boyfriend. But that apartment in the film! Holy smokes it was to die for! Pun intended.
Okay, so…this is the kind of copycat you might be a bit concerned about. This is not flattery. This is a Cluster B personality Disorder and easy to spot once you know what to look for. Here’s how easy it is to know the difference; this person copies you with malice. You can feel it, like slime. The hairs on the back of your neck spring up and your fight or flight response triggers. Unless you’re absolutely numb, you will have a visceral reaction to this kind of copycat and it will be soon into the connection. Heed that intuition and make a hasty retreat. This imitation has nothing to do with love, at all.
What did I learn today? I learned the Daily Prompts really can elicit some new content from me that’s interesting and pertinent to what might be happening around me. I also learned that to be copied is not such a bad thing when the folks that are doing it are good in their hearts.