Discovering what’s good


Facebook Discovery #275

When someone tells you they really have nothing to do with someone, but they pay a lot of attention to what that person says on Facebook.

Here’s a clue…they aren’t being totally honest with you. Β 

Sometimes you desperately want to believe only the good parts you think you know about people, even when there is evidence to the contrary. And you know what? It’s not their fault that you continue to believe in the illusion. It’s your fault.

You can not control how other people act. You can only control your own reaction. My reaction these days is a shrugged shoulder and a sidestep on the way out. I used to agonize about stuff like this, and sometimes I still do, but those days are becoming fewer and fewer.

I am continuing to grow stronger and healthier about the kinds of relationships I want to have, and the ones that have caused me constant grief, doubt and anxiety, are being shelved. It’s not that I stop loving my Idea of that person. I will always hold that memory in my heart. I just can’t participate in the smokescreen anymore. For some reason, people start finding an excuse not to be honest about what’s going on, and that’s when you might want to think about making a change.

I owe my strength to a lot of truly genuine, real friends, that I finally started appreciating, instead of wasting my time agonizing about the crappy ones.

That’s why I made my Facebook Discovery List. It is a Pandora’s Box, but only if you open it.

About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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11 Responses to Discovering what’s good

  1. Paula says:

    Over the span of my life, I have gone from one extreme, to the next, to finally finding balance with this one. As a child and teenager, I honestly did not care if people liked me or not and assumed everyone felt the same as I did about life and our surroundings. Woohoo! I was awakened from that dream at about 18 when it became evident that there really are people out there who are jealous of others and who will hurt others. So I started worrying more and more about what others thought, and it nearly destroyed my sense of who I was because I kept measuring myself against the opinions of others. Now, I finally found a balance. Not everyone is out to harm me; the majority are not. However, there exists a populatin of disingenuous people I must always be prepared to dismiss and not take offense when their charm turns out to be false and manipulative. I am no longer surprised when another person is revealed to be a part of that small population of assholes walking among us. (I like to refer to them as sociopaths, but I understand it’s not exactly an easily accepted term, but calling someone a “huge, monstrous asshole” seems to be more readily accepted.) πŸ™‚

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    • Oh I love your comments and observations! I was just like you when I was younger. I’m wondering if perhaps most young people have the same quality of not really caring much what other people think of them. I remember shrugging off so much more about people’s bullshit opinions then, than I do now.

      It has been a long and strident path back to that and you are right,you have to find a balance. There are folks that you might want to listen to and others it’s safe to ignore, but you have to learn which is which.

      You are someone I definitely listen to! Thank you for being one of my teachers, but best of all, one of my friends.

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  2. Very true words people bother about what others think …… πŸ˜‰

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  3. Some people need followers survive and some people need to follow to survive, if that makes sense. To me that shows weakness and a lack of self belief, thank you for following , I am following you too now lol, that’s a lot of following for strong women like us πŸ˜‰ Merry Christmas Madeline πŸ˜‰πŸ’«βœ¨πŸŒŸπŸŽ„

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  4. Maxima says:

    Merry Christmas! Peace, Health and Hope With love Maxima.


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