Facebook Discovery #275
When someone tells you they really have nothing to do with someone, but they pay a lot of attention to what that person says on Facebook.
Here’s a clue…they aren’t being totally honest with you.
Sometimes you desperately want to believe only the good parts you think you know about people, even when there is evidence to the contrary. And you know what? It’s not their fault that you continue to believe in the illusion. It’s your fault.
You can not control how other people act. You can only control your own reaction. My reaction these days is a shrugged shoulder and a sidestep on the way out. I used to agonize about stuff like this, and sometimes I still do, but those days are becoming fewer and fewer.
I am continuing to grow stronger and healthier about the kinds of relationships I want to have, and the ones that have caused me constant grief, doubt and anxiety, are being shelved. It’s not that I stop loving my Idea of that person. I will always hold that memory in my heart. I just can’t participate in the smokescreen anymore. For some reason, people start finding an excuse not to be honest about what’s going on, and that’s when you might want to think about making a change.
I owe my strength to a lot of truly genuine, real friends, that I finally started appreciating, instead of wasting my time agonizing about the crappy ones.
That’s why I made my Facebook Discovery List. It is a Pandora’s Box, but only if you open it.