What is Megalomania?
“Megalomania is a psycho-pathological condition characterized by delusional fantasies of wealth, power, or omnipotence. Megalomania is characterized by an inflated sense of self-esteem and overestimation by persons of their powers and beliefs.”
Whichever way this manifests in an individual, it is very clear that in order for this person to lead any kind of normal life, they must take medication. However medication alone is not enough and only treats the anxiety the person suffers from. The internal work of accepting their true selves has to be done with a psychiatrist and it is a long and arduous task of correcting that imbalance. Talking therapies generally do not work for them.
Empathy, remorse, and regret are all words that are seldom found in their vocabulary.
Yes, they will apologize profusely for any transgression in order to regain your trust. Once they have succeeded in manipulating you, they’ll resort back to what they do best and you will once again be on the receiving end of their psychosis. People suffering from this disorder are generally not interested in taking the blame or ownership of their bad behavior. Most of the time they’re not even aware they have a problem.
The one thing they all desire is a captive audience. Once they find this they are more at home than they are in their Lazyboy recliner. Their audience will usually consist of people that either don’t know them well, or don’t know them at all. This leaves the slate clean so that they can paint whatever picture they desire the group to see. As long as the majority of the group is going along with the fantasy, the person thrives.
Make no mistake, this is an extreme personality disorder. The best way to deal with them is to keep a low profile and never confront them. Confrontation and exposure of their fake claims may cause the Meglomaniac to strike out in your direction as they are generally bullies too. Bullies, as we all know, are just folks suffering from low self esteem and a whole lot of fear.
Meglomania has another face; Narcissism. These two go hand in hand and the traits of a narcissist should be heeded when dealing with anyone that displays this type of extreme behavior.
Here are some of the symptoms of narcissism:
“Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Symptoms
- Those who suffer from this disorder have an exaggerated sense of their selves.
- Such individuals are constantly under the belief that someone or the other is always jealous of them. On the other hand, they too are jealous of others as they have a low self esteem.
- Examples of narcissistic behavior include negative reactions to any form of criticism, even if it is constructive. They feel rejected and hurt when such criticism is expressed by others around them.
- A heightened superiority complex that shows in the form of considering everyone else inferior is another trait by which they can be identified.
- They have a deep need for power, success, and great achievements, and expect everyone around them to go along with them in achieving these dreams. Usually, the goals they have are unrealistic.
- Though they project themselves as unemotional, insensitive beings, they have a deep problem with their own self esteem that makes them look like that. All these symptoms lead them to have disturbed or unhealthy personal and professional relationships.”
Not everyone with these types of personality disorders are total failures.
But keep in mind that the average Joe that exhibits these kinds of behaviors is not to be excused or taken lightly.
Salvador Dali was a Meglomaniac Narcissist and he was wildly successful in his chosen field. I think it’s all in the way the person suffering chooses to conduct himself in the real world. All of these defects in the human psyche can be engineered and geared towards a livable existence. The person just needs to manage himself better, or keep some distance from the public.
Dali was known for being detached and cold, so even though he was popular and successful, he wasn’t a cuddly teddy bear.
How do you deal with a Meglomaniac?
That’s a hard one. This type of person has a very strong personality. They are beguiling and manipulative and can either draw you in with their charm and rowdy sense of humor, or they can pound you down with their anger and confrontational nature until you either crack and totally submit or you walk/run away from them. My advice is that once you realize you’re in the presence of a megalomaniac, you back towards the exit quietly, slam the door behind you and run until you’re sure they’ll never be able to find you.