do you know a Megalomaniac too?

This guy never flew a plane in his life, certainly never had a pilot’s license, never set foot on the USS America and what he describes never happened, but he can sure sell it to ya!

What is Megalomania?

~from Wikipedia

“Megalomania is a psycho-pathological condition characterized by delusional fantasies of wealth, power, or omnipotence. Megalomania is characterized by an inflated sense of self-esteem and overestimation by persons of their powers and beliefs.”

Whichever way this manifests in an individual, it is very clear that in order for this person to lead any kind of normal life, they must take medication. However medication alone is not enough and only treats the anxiety the person suffers from. The internal work of accepting their true selves has to be done with a psychiatrist and it is a long and arduous task of correcting that imbalance. Talking therapies generally do not work for them.

Empathy, remorse, and regret are all words that are seldom found in their vocabulary.  

Yes, they will apologize profusely for any transgression in order to regain your trust. Once they have succeeded in manipulating you, they’ll resort back to what they do best and you will once again be on the receiving end of their psychosis. People suffering from this disorder are generally not interested in taking the blame or ownership of their bad behavior. Most of the time they’re not even aware they have a problem.

The one thing they all desire is a captive audience. Once they find this they are more at home than they are in their Lazyboy recliner. Their audience will usually consist of people that either don’t know them well, or don’t know them at all. This leaves the slate clean so that they can paint whatever picture they desire the group to see. As long as the majority of the group is going along with the fantasy, the person thrives.

Make no mistake, this is an extreme personality disorder. The best way to deal with them is to keep a low profile and never confront them. Confrontation and exposure of their fake claims may cause the Meglomaniac to strike out in your direction as they are generally bullies too. Bullies, as we all know, are just folks suffering from low self esteem and a whole lot of fear.

Nothing he says here ever happened. Not one word of this is true (except the part about being a narcissist)…and yet he makes it all sound so believable.

 

Meglomania has another face; Narcissism. These two go hand in hand and the traits of a narcissist should be heeded when dealing with anyone that displays this type of extreme behavior.

Here are some of the symptoms of narcissism:

Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Symptoms

  • Those who suffer from this disorder have an exaggerated sense of their selves.
  • Such individuals are constantly under the belief that someone or the other is always jealous of them. On the other hand, they too are jealous of others as they have a low self esteem.
  • Examples of narcissistic behavior include negative reactions to any form of criticism, even if it is constructive. They feel rejected and hurt when such criticism is expressed by others around them.
  • A heightened superiority complex that shows in the form of considering everyone else inferior is another trait by which they can be identified.
  • They have a deep need for power, success, and great achievements, and expect everyone around them to go along with them in achieving these dreams. Usually, the goals they have are unrealistic.
  • Though they project themselves as unemotional, insensitive beings, they have a deep problem with their own self esteem that makes them look like that. All these symptoms lead them to have disturbed or unhealthy personal and professional relationships.”

Not everyone with these types of personality disorders are total failures.

But keep in mind that the average Joe that exhibits these kinds of behaviors is not to be excused or taken lightly.

Salvador Dali was a Meglomaniac Narcissist and he was wildly successful in his chosen field. I think it’s all in the way the person suffering chooses to conduct himself in the real world. All of these defects in the human psyche can be engineered and geared towards a livable existence. The person just needs to manage himself better, or keep some distance from the public.

Dali was known for being detached and cold, so even though he was popular and successful, he wasn’t a cuddly teddy bear.

How do you deal with a Meglomaniac?

That’s a hard one. This type of person has a very strong personality. They are beguiling and manipulative and can either draw you in with their charm and rowdy sense of humor, or they can pound you down with their anger and confrontational nature until you either crack and totally submit or you walk/run away from them. My advice is that once you realize you’re in the presence of a megalomaniac, you back towards the exit quietly, slam the door behind you and run until you’re sure they’ll never be able to find you.

 

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About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
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9 Responses to do you know a Megalomaniac too?

  1. When dealing with a Narcissist, don’t forget that people are nothing more than objects to them. They truly don’t know how to feel. The feelings they claim to have are merely projections of feelings they’ve sucked out of their latest victim(s). There is no cure for NPD. Even if they get themselves into therapy, which is rare, the most one can hope for is that they acknowledge themselves to have/be the disorder. If a “friend” of the N (and remember, N’s don’t have friends – they have mirrors) attempts to help the N in any way it will be perceived as criticism and that “friend” will find themselves immediately devalued. If the “friend” continues to attempt to help (because making suggestions that an N do something he or she is not already doing, constitutes criticism), the devaluation will become stronger. Any continued attempts at help will result in the “friend” being discarded.

    An N is a person who built a world for themselves as a very young child, a world where they are the center of the universe, where they are perfect, always right, never do anything wrong, and where anything bad that happens to them is someone else’s fault. They’ve done this, as children, as a coping mechanism to deal with the abuse perpetrated on them, either emotional or physical, and usually perpetrated by an N parent.

    These people stay at an emotional level of age 6-7. They don’t appear to be that way at first, but the longer you are in their realm of influence, the more you will see this. They collect people as mirrors. When the mirror stops showing them the perfection they believe themselves to be, they first attempt to punish the mirror by devaluing it. When that doesn’t work, the discard the mirror and go searching for a new one.

    There are plenty of mirrors to be had. The hardest thing to accept about being in the realm of influence of an N is that you can’t help them. That you are truly a “nothing” to them. You are an object, and once you have lost your usefulness, you are discarded. Someone else put it succinctly on her blog: “You are an object with an expiration date.”

    There is no such thing as a relationship with an N. Relationship, by very nature of the word, implies a balance of give and take. There’s no balance when involved with an N. They take you give. Period.

    N’s aren’t bad people, they’re damaged people. They’re empty people. They have lived in an inner stasis since early childhood and they ARE their disorder. They don’t have a disorder – they ARE their disorder.

    Your methods for helping, listed above, are great methods for an individual who is not narcissistic. They won’t work on an N. The N might go along with them if they are presented as fun activities where the N is placed in the spotlight and feels him or herself to be mirrored correctly, but at the first whiff that any of these activities is meant to help, change or fix them in any way, they will turn on you and one day you’ll wake up realizing you’ve been hit with the idiot bat so often and so hard that you lost your own self to the whims of a vacuum.

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    • Wow! I wasn’t expecting such a well informed comment, but I am sure glad you stopped by. This clears up many of the additional questions I had in addition to the research I’ve been doing. Thank you so much and please come back any time Miss Cranky Pance. We love your input.

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  2. Thanks, Madeline. You back-linked to my blog: http://datingapersonalitydisorder.wordpress.com and when I saw the back link I checked it out. You also have some excellent information here. I think the more information we can put out there for this (rarely recognized) disorder, the better off many people will be.

    I started my blog as therapy for myself. I’m a freshly discarded mirror and while I was aware of NPD, I didn’t think to ascribe any of the characteristics to this oh-so-wonderful man. As things got worse, though, my sense started to return, and I started digging. I found subsets of the disorder and I wish I’d bookmarked the dissertation . I’ll go digging – I know where it was first posted, and if it’s still there, I’ll post a link for you.

    I wanted to make certain I never allowed myself to engage on a serious level with an N again. In order for me to do that, I had to KNOW. Knowledge is power and I’m gaining the power to both cope with the destruction this man caused, and to learn how to recognize it on a very first date, say “thank you” and walk away, with my self intact.

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  3. Got it and thank you so much 🙂 I’m going to spend some time pouring over it. Who knows? It might generate a new post!!

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  4. This is also a good place to find help and more information:

    http://www.psychforums.com/narcissistic-personality/

    🙂

    Lots of posts and info there. Some junk, some good.

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  5. Thanks for the helpful blog.

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  6. Dave says:

    Self preservation has an element of narcissism to it though most people with emotional fluidity never come to realize it because of their denial. I was diagnosed as a schizophrenic and after ten years I’m just starting to identify traces of megalomania from childhood. I’ve isolated myself for years where I could detach and project about exceptional and extraordinary situations occurring in my future. Fantasies where I’d be celebrated and applauded even Heralded and acclaimed for my intellectual prowess. For me though it’s residual and the more I’ve opened up about it the less dominance it’s had over my perceptions. I embrace my juvenile narcissism today as it is complementary to sound mental and emotional well being.

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    • Sometimes when we open up about our fears it has a way of making the things we tell ourselves seem not so scary or bad. Kudos for finding a way through that and for finding a light on the other side.

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