sometimes you’re just not ready to hear it

I enjoy bringing light to subjects that many people either won’t or don’t talk about. I also enjoy sharing my own life experiences with a lesson or two that you can try yourself in recovery. Each time I sit down at my keyboard the thoughts in my head are never all about me and what’s happened to me, they are about all of you and how what’s happened to me can help you.

But I know that sometimes there are many of you that just aren’t ready to hear that.

When you read the blurb attached to the rest of the blog post, and you never click on the link and read the entire post, you miss out on the best part of the article I’ve spent time writing. And worst of all, you cheat yourself of the knowledge I’ve shared. You’re not getting the full spa treatment, you’re just smelling the candles. And who wants to settle for just that?  

I relish new readers and I also adore authenticity. That’s why I probe folks that make blind comments where it’s obvious they never read the article. I’m not being pushy, just giving you a slight nudge because everything I write has something compelling to a reader that felt compelled to comment blind. You aren’t going to say something unless that blurb touched a nerve and if you are searching for answers I want you to have the benefit of reading mine. They might just be what you’re looking for.

People that are just on the cusp of the beginning of their recovery are finding their own voice. They want everyone to hear their story and to tell them it’s going to be okay. They don’t have time to be doing a lot of reading about what other people went through. They just want to be heard!

I get that. I was just like that. I spent an entire year telling my story and writing about it. Then I spent another year making people read it and comment on it. It was right around that time that I realized I wasn’t getting any better and most of my friends were losing patience with me. That’s when I stopped banging on my keyboard and burning up the phone lines, and I started doing research and reading about other people’s recoveries.

I knew then that I had to start paying attention, or I was never going to recover.

Don’t wait around in the past that is your own story. Start moving forward and use your story to help others, while helping yourself by paying attention to their stories too. We are all in this together and we will heal a lot faster with a little help from people who have already been there and can show you a healthy path to walk.

Your story is out there and people will listen to you and offer comfort, but you still have to do the work.

It’s time to start taking care of yourself now.

Advertisements

About Madeline Scribes

A writer with a sense of humor. If anyone can laugh at life, it's me.
This entry was posted in All kinds of Advice, Personal Boundaries Primer and tagged , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

6 Responses to sometimes you’re just not ready to hear it

  1. Ritu says:

    Oh it is so important not to wallow in your past.. you miss out on so much if you don’t widen your horizons a little at least.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. She Tallent says:

    I believe that if another reads what someone has gone through; and a parallel surfaces to their life…..
    This may be the sharing that helps another unpainted the picture that they are not alone , and that the abuse has clouding thier authentic self.
    I thank all for sharing as some things I had missed that happened.
    Or perhaps I was unaware of the sneaky behaviors.
    That said, I believe it all helps and gives strength to your idea that all victims do better by being heard.
    Clearly , that is :
    Human vs NARC
    Peace

    Liked by 1 person

I think it's so nice to see your thoughts! Please share!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s