Category Archives: Personal Boundaries Primer

Learn how to protect yourself

Telling Your Side versus a Narcissistic Smear Campaign

There is a big difference between telling your side of the story and a Narcissistic Smear Campaign. Telling your side of the story simply states facts. There is no need to share jabs or insults and it looks like this: … Continue reading

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social Vampires

Ah yes, the Social Vampire is a special breed that only comes out in your darkest moment to drain the blood from your soul and turn you into a paranoid creature afraid of the sunlight, with no reflection of your … Continue reading

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the Secrets we Keep

When I first started recovering from years of mental and verbal abuse, I loathed talking about it. Who wants to admit they were stupid enough to fall victim to an abuser? It’s humiliating to endure the voice in your own … Continue reading

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We all have better things to talk about

  I cannot tell you the number of times I would sit down in a therapy session and start out by sharing the latest bit of mean petty crap someone had been saying about me and how hurt I was … Continue reading

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it’s Enough, and we are here with you

The other day I received a comment on one of my most popular posts about those *cough*lovely*cough* personality disordered people many of us just can not understand, or get away from. It was a long and detailed comment and one … Continue reading

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what is So Fascinating?

  Today I am pondering the reasons a particular group of folks have for continuing to talk about me. I will give them this one thought and trust me, there won’t be a second one. I am thinking this might … Continue reading

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Small towns gossip, but shhhh! we don’t Talk about that

I was reading an article recently that was written by a woman that grew up in this small town, moved away for school and then moved back. She was waxing poetic about the people in the community and how they … Continue reading

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do you know a Megalomaniac too?

What is Megalomania? ~from Wikipedia “Megalomania is a psycho-pathological condition characterized by delusional fantasies of wealth, power, or omnipotence. Megalomania is characterized by an inflated sense of self-esteem and overestimation by persons of their powers and beliefs.” Whichever way this … Continue reading

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I know you’re still watching me

Yes, I know you’re still out there watching me and reading every word I write. Even though you’ve probably learned by now that using proxy servers shows up and that privacy is a matter of technical skill. But even that … Continue reading

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What can Bad People teach us?

Along with some of the most fabulous women in the world, I also seem to attract a bit of the crazy. To someone that lives for the soft aesthetic of life, this is a blemish I can not abide. What can … Continue reading

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