left behind

Dense with the spoils of the sea.

Eroded by persistence.

Pushed over with the force of nature.

Left behind and almost forgotten.

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Making Healthy Boundaries and losing Buttons



I was chatting with a friend the other day and our conversation was about having our buttons pushed. She told me that it wasn’t as much about why they were pushed, but more about how they were pushed. When you get bogged down in the details of why something happened, you tend to totally miss how it happened in the first place. This was something I was interested in learning more about.

Since I have seriously taken on reshaping how I deal with situations that make me uncomfortable, learning how not to have my buttons pushed to the point of being uncomfortable would be the first step in successfully filtering out those people in my life.   Continue reading

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Dealing with bitter people

Dealing with bitter people can be exhausting, if you let it be. Bitter people resent your good fortune, your life and just about everything about you, and they let you know it. Yes, they let you know it, usually in a passive aggressive way. They are not fun people to have around.

So how do you deal with a bitter person in your life?

I decided to start my research by Googling some good quotes on bitterness. Here’s some of the ones I found;   Continue reading

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it’s so easy being green

it ain’t easy being green

it ain’t easy being small

it ain’t easy to be seen

it ain’t easy when you fall

But it’s easy to find space

And it’s easy to fit in

It’s so easy in this place

I’ll hold the door, go on in


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when Married People fight

Why are you so upset?

I’m upset because I just spent the last three hours trying to say I’m sorry for spending time with her husband this weekend. I invited him over to watch a game on television with me and my husband.

Why was she so mad?

They’re separated because she threw him out of the house.

Oh. So why did you invite him over if they’re fighting?

Because we wanted to find out what his story was and if he wants to go back to her.

Did he tell you?   Continue reading

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do you know a Megalomaniac too?

This guy never flew a plane in his life, certainly never had a pilot’s license, never set foot on the USS America and what he describes never happened, but he can sure sell it to ya!

What is Megalomania?

~from Wikipedia

“Megalomania is a psycho-pathological condition characterized by delusional fantasies of wealth, power, or omnipotence. Megalomania is characterized by an inflated sense of self-esteem and overestimation by persons of their powers and beliefs.”

Whichever way this manifests in an individual, it is very clear that in order for this person to lead any kind of normal life, they must take medication. However medication alone is not enough and only treats the anxiety the person suffers from. The internal work of accepting their true selves has to be done with a psychiatrist and it is a long and arduous task of correcting that imbalance. Talking therapies generally do not work for them.

Empathy, remorse, and regret are all words that are seldom found in their vocabulary.   Continue reading

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Atop the world and safe in being loved

atop my friend’s furry head

atop my sanctuary

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