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If you were ever caught up in the middle of someone in the process of executing crazy making behavior on you, it’s one of the most befuddling situations you will ever be subjected to.
Crazy making behavior is just what it sounds like. It’s someone trying to make you crazy, or keep you unbalanced and confused, so they can manipulate you. It’s not fun or funny, in fact, it’s diabolical and incredibly damaging. If you’re still unsure what this kind of behavior looks like, I’ll share some examples.
My mother in law used to tell me to my face how much she loved me, but behind my back she told everyone else how much she hated me. When I would ask her about it she would deny that she ever told people that, but I knew she was.
Her motivation is rooted in the fact that she can’t control me and it makes her angry. She can’t just love me for who I am, she needs to control me. She wants to know where I am and what I’m doing at all times and she doesn’t want me to be friends with or spend time around anyone but her. I don’t cooperate, so she tries to isolate me by assuming that her gossip will turn others against me. I guess it makes her feel like she’s in control of something to use gossip as a way to isolate me.
I can’t control what she does. I can only control how I react to it and that’s the first step to walking away from crazy making behavior. You have to realize that the only way they can make you crazy is if you allow it. It’s true what they say; what you allow will continue.
That being said, I also don’t have time for folks that play into the drama by maliciously repeating the gossip. I am totally transparent and happy to answer any questions. But if you just want to spread the word to everyone else, then you might be a Crazy Maker too.
The second thing you need to come to terms with is if someone is doing this to you, this is abuse.
You are being abused. Continue reading