Tag Archives: Self-esteem

is there a difference between No Contact and a Narcissistic Silent Treatment?

No Contact is very good advice given to victims of a malignant narcissist or a sociopath. It simply means no contact, of any kind, with the person that has been abusing you. It is a way to eliminate the abuser’s … Continue reading

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Keeping Score and losing the game

Do you have a friend that keeps score? Or are you someone that keeps score? Keeping score goes something like this… “Well, I paid our way to the movies last time, so she owes me lunch.” “He didn’t buy me … Continue reading

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We all have better things to talk about

  I cannot tell you the number of times I would sit down in a therapy session and start out by sharing the latest bit of mean petty crap someone had been saying about me and how hurt I was … Continue reading

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Being more selective with your Time

I told one of my friends the other day that living in a small town was starting to make me feel mean. It’s a little disappointing to find out the darling of the local Chamber of Commerce is also the … Continue reading

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I am who I am no matter who you are

I had not noticed this was a huge part of who I am until I began creating personal boundaries for myself. I am who I am no matter who the other person is pretending to be and that’s not something … Continue reading

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do you know a Megalomaniac too?

What is Megalomania? ~from Wikipedia “Megalomania is a psycho-pathological condition characterized by delusional fantasies of wealth, power, or omnipotence. Megalomania is characterized by an inflated sense of self-esteem and overestimation by persons of their powers and beliefs.” Whichever way this … Continue reading

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self shame

I was having a conversation with my friend, Paula, telling her about an exchange I had with another woman. The woman started throwing these insults my way that I just could not understand why, or what she was trying to … Continue reading

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